Children are little angels, but when they cry, they lose their innocence. It’s heartbreaking as a parent to see your children weep, but saying “Stop Crying!” or using rude phrases won’t help. Kids may cry for various reasons, sometimes irritated, tired or simply want attention. Showing love and affection are your best friends in such situations. 

I understand you’re sad and that’s okay

Reiterate that it is our ability to feel emotions that distinguishes us as human beings. Make your kids understand that every day can’t be a good day and it’s completely fine. Whatever is bothering your child is legitimate. It might appear to be insignificant or irrelevant but a kid isn’t mature enough to understand this. Allowing a youngster to realise that being sad is alright and entirely normal will guarantee that they are not ashamed to feel that way.

We’re on the same team I will help you

Even if your child claims they don’t want your assistance, they want to know that you’ll be there for them when they need it. Your child might not be ready to reach out when they’re angry; various personalities deal with emotions in different ways. Knowing that you’ll be there when they’re ready to talk encourages them to express their feelings when they’re ready. Some people prefer to reflect about their experiences and discuss them later, while others prefer to discuss them right away. Recognizing that any option is acceptable puts them at ease and relieves the urge to talk about problems right immediately.

Let’s work on this together

Children are competitive by nature. You may be required to help them should they encounter a roadblock. This statement expresses your agreement with what they’re doing. Having a positive attitude and your presence, at that time, with the kids makes them feel stronger. It is of great help in taking kids out of such situations.  If you find yourself in a position where you don’t know what to do (for example, your child is frustrated because he can’t put on his own shoes), you might invite him to help you solve the problem by asking, ‘what’s the solution to this problem?’

That was really sad

Recognizing the event that caused your child to weep will assist them understand what caused their feeling and what to do next. Everyone, including children, wants to be heard. Allow your youngster to tell you about a recent event that has caused them to cry. It will help them work through their feelings while also reassuring them that you are there to support them. The rules are not made by the children. They also have little control over the course of their day. As you may understand, this can be overwhelming and unjust. It’s best to empathise in situations like this.

I love you. You are safe

Instead of separation, this encourages you to connect with your child. They may require a hug, a cuddle, or the holding of your hand to feel that you are truly there to help them. Toddlers don’t just weep because they’re tired; they might also cry because they’re afraid of something. You want to acknowledge how they’re feeling and reassure them that you’ll be there for them as they face their fears. Everyone, including children, wants to be heard. Allow your youngster to tell you about a recent event that has caused them to cry. It will help them work through their feelings while also reassuring them that you are there to support them.

Let’s take a break

Removing you both from the issue teaches your child that you need to take a break from time to time to regain your composure. Your youngster may be fatigued or over stimulated and simply needs to rest in a quiet, relaxing environment before returning to the activity. Children naturally imitate many of our behaviours, so show them how to relax by taking long breaths. 

I remember when you…

While it may appear to be a form of distraction, assisting them in recalling a period when they were joyful and tranquil helps to prepare their brain for reasonable reasoning. Trying to negotiate with a child who is experiencing strong emotions is similar to negotiating with a small dictator.

Daddy can help you if you’ll tell daddy why you are crying

If your youngster still won’t talk after you’ve tried some of the aforementioned phrases, try this one. It communicates to your child that you are willing to listen but unable to help unless they speak up. Positive feelings are well received by children, and this is a terrific approach to show them that you care. 

Kids are very lovable, but sometimes when they throw tantrums at you, keep calm and pamper your child. They may be irritated, frustrated, or tired at times, or they may simply want your attention. Be with your child in such situations; don’t leave them alone. Hug them, console them, and listen to whatever they say. Maybe they just want to be heard. I’m sure dealing with your child like this will be of great help. How do you tackle your child in such situations? Please let me know and leave comments in the comment section.